succint list:
        - lose weight
        - go to TG meetups




- LOSE WEIGHT.  That's the biggest thing that'll impact whether I look good or not, whether CD or
  normal.  FIX MY SCALE.


- Hang out with TG meetups in Chicago.  It looks like there are a fair number of them.
        - I can get clothing tips from them (sizing, etc)
        - I'll be able to learn about gender fluidity from them (even if most aren't necessarily
          into that, it's still something that they deal with on a weekly basis)
        - TG people WANT TO BE ACCEPTED by people outside of their community.
          Doing meetups with them would help that.
                http://www.helium.com/items/129163-mtf-transitioning-tips?page=3

        - they're very accepting of people who want to alter their gender identity,
                and they can provide me with the space I need to explore my 
                own feelings on it



- try to buy some shapewear.  Not only is it designed to be very tight, and make one more feminine, it'll also
  tend to have a tighter crotch than normal if worn my a male.  :)


- very interesting advice on wearing stuff when home alone, and using those experiences to
  understand yourself a lot better
            http://www.sissykiss.com/showthread.php?t=4458





==== advice ====
- it's not worth it to try to "pass".  Most TG people are ugly, and those that aren't spend a TON of
  time and money to look that way.  It just isn't possible for a guy to look as good as a girl.