There are three basic attributes that someone can take on:
        - physical identity         (ie. male or female genitalia,              non-binary = hermaphrodite, intersex)
        - social identity           (ie. what they wish to pass as,             non-binary = genderqueer, intergender,          situational = gender fluid, bigender)
        - sexual orientation        (ie. who they're sexually attracted to,     non-binary = bisexual, mixed orientation)

Also, "non-binary" can mean:
        - fixed identity            (even though their identity is nontraditional, it's still nonetheless fairly static from day-to-day)  (pretty much everyone's identity changes over the course of their lives, so it doesn't literally mean "never changing")
        - fluid identity            (they conciously change their identity based on situation)

Sexual orientation is further broken out into several different things:
        - sexual orientation        (who they internally feel they're attracted to)
        - sexual identity           (who they outwardly present themselves as being attracted to,  ie. out of the closet, or not, or otherwise presenting something else)
        - sexual behavior           (who they actually have sex with -- some people don't view themselves as homosexual, even if they occasionally have homosexual sex)
        - dominance                 (during a sexual act, someone can take on the role of a top or a bottom, sometimes separately from their gender identity and sexual identity)
                                                                                non-binary = versatile, switch)


"*" means it's a label I strongly self-apply   (at least in some situations)


======== social identity / gender identity ========
  gender role -- implies that someone wants to take on a gender identity for a longer period of time

  transgender -- someone's physical body and gender identity don't match
  cisgender -- someone's physical body and gender identity matches  (ie. it's what's "normal")
* genderqueer -- someone's gender identity isn't at one extreme or other of the spectrum, but falls somewhere in the middle (or outside)

  transvestite -- a historical term for "crossdressing";  most people don't self-apply it now
  crossdressing -- general-purpose term for someone whose gender identity doesn't match their physical identity
  drag queen -- motivation = for entertainment or performance  (often exagerating or satirizing the other sex)  ("faux queens" are women who dress as queens, ie. overdo it)
* transvestic fetishism -- motivation = for sexual/erotic purposes
* genderfuck, gender bender -- motivation = to challenge social norms, also sometimes to force people to "give them space" to have a fluid identity and/or initially explore their identity.
  crossplay -- combination of "cosplay" and "crossdressing" -- motivation = entertainment/performance  (though obviously there can be other motivations as well)



======== physical identity ========
  transexual -- someone who wishes to have (or currently *does* have) a different physical identity than they had at birth

  SRS -- sexual reassignment surgery
  preop -- a transexual who hasn't had SRS yet
  postop -- a transexual who hasn't had SRS yet


======== sexual orientation ========
* gynephilia -- someone who is attracted to females  (a generic term that applies, independent of their social or physical identity)
  androphilia -- someone who is attracted to males   (generic term)

  girlfag, fag hag -- someone who's physically female, who is attracted to homosexual men  (fag hag is the platonic version, girlfag implies romantic/erotic attraction)
* guydyke -- someone who's physically male, who is attracted to homosexual women (lesbians)


======== dominance ========

* sissy -- a gender-identity=male who is actively being a bottom, or who enjoys being a bottom


======== TODO ========

- does Bec ever identify as a "drag king"?   That is, does she REALLY intend the beard thing to be for performance / comic effect?   Or is it a way to try to express her true gender identity?