advice for allies
[Allyship is] not supposed to be about you. It’s not supposed to be about your feelings. It’s not supposed to be a way of glorifying yourself at the expense of the folks you claim to be an ally to. It’s not supposed to be a performance. It’s supposed to be a way of living your life that doesn’t reinforce the same oppressive behaviors you’re claiming to be against. ...
Actions count; labels don’t.
The Do’s and Don’ts of Being a Good Ally
8 Ways Not To Be An "Ally"
I Can't Tell You How To Love Trans Women
dealing with your own privilege
1. relinquish power 3. shut up 4. be careful what identities you claim
Desirability: Or, Why That White Ally Who Dates All the Brown Queers Needs To Stop It
"Why I Don't Date White Men"
"Personally, I have also had trouble imagining intimate relationships with white men. This is because the history of oppression, exploitation, and dehumanization of Black women’s bodies by white men is searingly painful and enraging for me."
Your Spouse May Be Black, But You’re Still Racist
(your spouse may be a woman, but you're still sexist)