partner of BPD

advice on dealing COMPASSIONATELY with a partner

10 Tips for Families and Friends of People with BPD, by Amanda Robins

"As long as you can validate their feelings and be clear about your boundaries, they will eventually learn to trust you. Being crystal clear AND consistent is more important than giving in to every whim."

abandonment

"One example of splitting ... is the two extremes our brains go to when we feel abandoned: either cling too tight, or leave before we get left. The brain is missing the middle ground of how it's entirely possible to let the relationship continue how it has without doing something drastic like either of those."