* What to say in your very first message: [[1]](https://theblog.okcupid.com/https-medium-com-okcupid-what-to-send-in-a-first-message-on-a-dating-site-c06ada24547c) [[2]](https://theblog.okcupid.com/exactly-what-to-say-in-a-first-message-2bf680806c72) * Why a coffee date is the best first date [[1]](https://www.bustle.com/articles/143687-9-reasons-meeting-up-for-coffee-is-the-best-first-date-idea) [[2]](https://www.thecut.com/2018/07/the-best-first-date-is-a-boring-coffee-date.html) * Second and third date ideas [[1]](https://www.luvze.com/second-and-third-date-ideas/) [[2]](https://www.lovepanky.com/flirting-flings/dating-game/third-date-ideas) [[3]](https://herway.net/relationship/11-creative-and-fun-third-date-ideas-make-your-date-memorable/) * [Intimacy order](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/9m9q2/how_can_i_tell_when_girls_are_flirting/c0dd42l/) * Ways to get to know a partner even better: [36 Questions to Fall in Love](https://www.nytimes.com/2015/01/11/fashion/no-37-big-wedding-or-small.html), [Spicer app](https://spicer.app/), [Gottman cards](https://www.gottman.com/couples/apps/), [Kindu app](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=us.kindu.kinduforcouples), [Happy Couple](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.relance.happycouple)