how to respond to stonewalling

• reddit thread — How do secure attachment folks deal with stonewalling?
  • defining the terms 'stonewalling' and 'silent treatment'

definitions of stonewalling

"In a discussion or argument, the listener withdraws from the interaction, shutting down and closing themselves off from the speaker because they are feeling overwhelmed or physiologically flooded. Metaphorically speaking, they build a wall between them and their partner."

"If you’re more of a visual learner, here is a short clip with an explanation of stonewalling from John Gottman, as well as an example of what it looks like".