document updated 13 years ago, on Aug 31, 2010
Unfortunately, it seems that no matter how marginalized a group is, now matter how progressive a group claims to be, everyone still finds time to put down femininity:
- cis/hetero people — much has been written about traditional sexism, rape culture, etc
- feminists — Most feminists are not pro-femininity, they're only pro-women.
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This is not just transphobia, because they often prefer trans-masculine people over trans-feminine people. Whenever they do this (even if the preference is slight), they are effectively saying "the more a woman acts like a man, the more we like her". It's amazing they don't see how fucked up this is.
- gay men — gay guys generally find effeminate/nellie guys to be unattractive
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(granted, by definition, most gay guys are more attracted to masculinity,
but you'd think that since they've long realized that gender is non-binary, that they'd be more accpeting of gender-variance)