document updated 14 years ago, on May 7, 2010
Ethical nonmonogamy
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I think the most interesting part of poly relationships is how difficult they are to maintain. That level of difficulty requires a clear-headed understanding of how to deal with the issues, and those same approaches can be used to tackle many other (easier) problems in relationships:
- boundaries / ground rules — negotiating boundaries that you can really actually live with is the very first step in poly relationships,
- self-awareness — Many people let feelings of jealousy sneak up on them. Similarly, sometimes people let themselves start hiding things from their partner without being fully aware
- communication — being sensitive to possibly brewing problems, being able to effectively resolve problems when they're spotted, etc, are very very important