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There's a well-known concept of fag hags — when two people become friends because their attraction is likely to remain strictly platonic. There are other pairings than just gay-man/straight-women that can remain platonic.

(note: Here, I make the distinction between subject and object. Subject is the primary person we're considering, and object is the person that the subject is considering making friends with. The object is the group that the subject has the smallest probability of being sexually/romantically attracted to. When multiple options are listed, the first one is the one with the highest preference.)

(see also: homosocial, heterosocial)

subject object notes
bisexual men
(lean gynephilia)
gay men
lesbian women
This one describes me.
bisexual men
(lean androphilia)
lesbian women
gay men
bisexual women
(lean androphilia)
lesbian women
gay men
bisexual women
(lean gynephilia)
gay men
lesbian women
gay men lesbian women
any women
Women are "safer" platonic friends generally, since they supposedly don't form spurious attractions as readily as guys do.
lesbian women gay men Straight men? Rarely. Though they exist — google lezbro OR lesbro
straight men straight men In theory, they could seek lesbian women as platonic friends, but that porn depiction thing hampers it a lot.
straight women straight women
gay men
(Note: Yes, this table totally supports the gender binary, something I usually avoid doing. I just did this to simplify the table. I'm not sure if/how the table would change once non-binary identities and attractions are introduced into the picture. Probably WAY more complex, unless you could restate it in formula form.)

Who I am

Generally, these are the specific things that I'm exploring lately, that I didn't have the opportunity to explore before, so I'm really focusing on them now.