document updated 14 years ago, on Sep 1, 2010
Finding space and/or people where your gender expression is accepted can feel awesome, like a dream come true.
Unfortunately, if you're not careful, it can also turn into a particularly nasty form of escapism. Or you can end up using it to avoid intimacy.
- definitions of "pink fog"/"blue fog"
- tips for avoiding the pink fog
- Unless you're ready to be full-time, remember that the other half of you has real needs too. If that's the half that makes money, then its needs are more important.
- Don't be so self-centered. (I don't mean that in a "all women are narcissistic" way) While it's awesome that you're finally able to explore a part of yourself that you've ignored your whole life, your other relationships absolutely still need nurturing. When you have time to spend with others, make them a priority, since you always have plenty of time to explore yourself.