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document updated 15 years ago, on Oct 23, 2009
Unfortunately, Sametime / Lotus Notes IM uses FlashWindow() instead of FlashWindowEx() to flash the window, so it's not so easy to stop its blinking.

However, there is the option: However, this removes ALL notifications. It would probably be better to implement the DLL injection idea.