lessons from couples therapists

I believe in learning from any body of knowledge that a group has built up, and couples therapists / relationship therapists have certainly built up a body of knowledge.

• understand the pursue-withdraw relationship dynamic [2] [3], and that it can sometimes occur even in relatively healthy relationships
• the concept of attachment styles is often misunderstood [2]

Lists of other advice that couples therapists often give: [1] [2] [3] [4]