Obviously, this makes it hard to touch-flirt in relationships.
Black-and-white advice for helping me get through this stage of relationships, and move on to the point where the other person is willing to sit down and hear me out about how intimacy with me is somewhat different than with other folks.
Yeah, maybe the list seems creepy for folks who are more "normal" and have interacted socially for years, but there are a lot of folks who aren't like that (Including me. I have long thought that everybody else finds being touched just as painful as I do. I've only recently started realizing that touching sometimes is okay, but the years of avoiding touch means that I'm pretty baffled by those social conventions now.)