"match the other person's energy" rule — the pros, cons, and caveats

• https://www.instagram.com/sabrina.zohar/reel/C0mCplFLuMn/?hl=en
• https://www.reddit.com/r/unpopularopinion/comments/i6ocpr/matching_other_peoples_energy_is_just_avoiding/
• I Don’t “Match Energy” — at least not any more.
• "When we recognize that people’s energies or vibes are a bit off from what they have traditionally been or what we hope they would be, we can engage in an authentic conversation ... . Talk about mutual expectations with partnerships in our work and how to impact students. Rather than changing our own energies downward to match someone else’s, create the energy that you want the other person to match."

This is an interesting perspective:

Now it’s time to hit you with the truth. The reason we are so quick to throw people away or write them off is because we have developed negative coping strategies. Essentially, we are trying to protect ourselves from being vulnerable, hurt, or afraid. We do not want to give people a chance to get that close to us to where they can hurt us. We want to feel in control of the situation. Yet, when we do not feel in the control of the situation, we start to retreat instead of assessing the situation."](https://www.restorationandpeace.net/single-post/time-to-stop-matching-people-s-energy)